The past 5 posts have contained tips for re-inventing yourself and creating a new life--a new set of externals circumstances through which you can realize your dreams. These tips are all lessons I have learned through my own journey, as I gave up my house and stable job in the place I had lived in since birth, and moved my family 1300 miles across the country to live on a sailboat, while I maintained a day job and started my own business.
We have been happy with our new life, and we have no intention of going back to the way we used to live. However, I have met many people who can't say the same about the changes they have made in their lives.
So often, we move, we make drastic changes, only to find that the same drama, the same repetitive patterns, occur again in this new venue. I've known people who were so miserable that they decided to move and start over, and yet they were just as miserable after making the changes. Often, these people end up moving back to their old lives, because at least they were miserable with friends and family there!
Why does this happen? Why don't the changes bring the peace that we are seeking?
The answer to these questions is that we will not be able to truly re-invent ourselves if we focus on external circumstances only, ignoring the internal fears and limiting beliefs that caused our situation to become stressful or unfulfilling in the first place.
The part of my "story" that most people don't realize is that I did much more work AFTER making the changes to my situation. After summoning up the courage to make the move, I found that I still lingered back in the shadows and still got caught up in the same situations, drama, and misunderstandings that had led me to leave my previous job. The same pattern was repeating itself, and there was only one common denominator--me.
What followed was 2 1/2 years of working with my life coach, who is now my mentor. One by one, I had to work through and redefine the beliefs about myself and everyone else, because I was making assumptions that were leading me to act in a way that kept the pattern repeating. It was a long, difficult process, but in the end I found a sense of peace that will follow me through any external circumstances.
Here are the others posts in the "Re-Inventing Yourself 101" series:
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