Eliminating and redefining limiting beliefs is key to finding inner peace and reaching your potential. And a great deal of the limiting beliefs that we hold are based on arbitrary concepts that hold us back.
Earlier this week, we looked at 3 words that should be removed from our vocabulary: success, failure, and normal. Many times we do not more forward, because we are worried about not having success, experiencing failure, or not being normal.
Today we are going to look at 3 more words that should be eliminated from our consciousness: hate, negative, and trust.
It is impossible to hate. To hate means to absolutely reject one aspect of existence (which could be an entire person), and we can only do that if we misunderstand the thing. And the solution to misunderstanding should not be to push it away, but to lean closer and seek to understand.
For example, what if you hated someone who was racist? This makes sense on the surface level, but isn't your "hate" really just misunderstanding? In this instance, you are not understanding WHY the person is acting the way they do.
If, instead of rejecting the person, you were curious with them, you may learn that they are racist because they do not understand why people of other cultures act the way they do. Or perhaps they are afraid of losing their job, because they doubt that they could survive such a hardship. And in their survival mode, they are blaming people of other races and (falsely) identifying them as a "threat."
Beginning to understand this person does not mean that you condone their behavior. Because you can see that their beliefs are based on fear. But hate is not the response that we have, when we realize someone is blinded by fear. Compassion comes naturally, even if we realize that the person may not be able to see that their actions are fear-based.
"Positive" and "negative" are very useful terms when it comes to magnets and electricity. However, labelling thoughts as "positive" or "negative" can be quite limiting.
When we experience a thought and immediately call it "negative," we are telling ourselves that we should not be thinking these thoughts. When we say something and call it "negative," we are attacking ourselves for saying it.
And yet, we think and say the things we do for a reason. Simply trying to stop our thoughts and behavior does not address the underlying issues. Thinking and acting "positively" is our default. So "negative" thoughts and actions are indicators of roadblocks to this.
For example, if you keep complaining at a party, there is a reason for this. Perhaps you are tired or wanting to do something else. Maybe you are thinking that you put forth a lot more effort when you host, and you are feeling unimportant. There is ALWAYS a reason. And the solution lies in identifying and redefining that reason.
I am not actually asking you to eliminate this word, but I am asking you to redefine it. So often, we think that gratitude means counting our blessings--of making a list of things that we are thankful for, so that we can take our focus away from the things that we don't appreciate.
However, this is not what gratitude is. We can't pick and choose what to be grateful for. We are either grateful for it all in one moment, or grateful for none of it. When we are in a state of gratitude, we understand that it all is a part of the journey, even if we can't see how every event fits in . When we are not in a state of gratitude, we are rejecting a part of our experience.
In the end, all of our thoughts and experiences serve a purpose, and we need to look at all of them deeply. And the result of that will be love, positive experiences, and true gratitude.
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